Hi all i have joined in the hope i can provide some advice for my family. My mum has ms and has had for around 25 years wow i type and can remember being told mum had it . Anway she has lived a decent enough life up until lately she has suddenly gone quite severley down hill, unfortunately i live in a different place to her and my sister has had to do most of the care work etc i feel so guilty as my sister is slowly sinking i can see how depressed she is becoming and feel helpless to do anything. I have talked about options with her these are at the moment being met with complete it is out of the question by her the final option is i give up my job and take me and my kids back to be closer and help with mums care i feel reluctant to do this to my children if it was just me i definately would go.
The options i put forward were possibly looking in to getting a home help so someone would go in a couple of times a week to help with getting mum to the bathroom etc maybe do a bit of cleaning etc...i worry that mum lives in high rise flats although moving to a warden run place were independance is in place with the security of someone being around to help if required or i go back everytime i have holidays, i work term time this option is one i dont feel fair to my kids should they have to give up their lives and friends i personally dont feel that would be right i mean some of the holiday time is fine as we do that anyway.Iam inclined to go down the home help route what do people think? I really need to help them all to give respite to sister and help to mum but just dont know how to without everyone falling out i have other siblings who dont live close and dont tend to bother with family much.
this is all breaking my heart...
regards busy :(